That\u2019s an intriguing title, isn\u2019t it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I chose it because, after receiving a cancer diagnostic, we often hear phrases like: \u201cyou have to fight\u201d, \u201cbe strong \u201c, \u201cstay positive\u201d and \u201cyou will win\u201d. Cancer hits hard<\/em>, it destabilizes<\/em>. We are talking about eradicating<\/em> cancer, then about destroying<\/em> and killing<\/em> cancerous cells.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Staying strong and getting ready to fight, at a time when we feel so vulnerable and disempowered, is asking quite a lot from us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Of course, I well understand that these notions are related to the desire of living and getting through these difficult times. But the concept of \u201cwinning\u201d or \u201closing a combat\u201d puts lots of pressure on our shoulders.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Breast cancer comes with its share of intense emotions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I know. I went through it twice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n At this level, we virtually all experience the same stages: the initial chock, the denial, and the obligation to admit that this is really happening. We are angry, sad, helpless, and often hopeless in front of this ordeal. And the swirl of emotions doesn\u2019t stop there! Fear, stress, uncertainty, they all grab our mind and shake up our brain. Emotions reach their peak! They drain lots of energy\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n And then, we are being told that we must fight. Phew\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n That\u2019s what I did the first time. I was 30. I really fought! My whole day was a battle. I was spending all my time thinking of cancer. My goal was to find the best ways to fight and to win the battle. I was extremely determined. Then, when the evening came, I was having a hard time to calm down and fall asleep. Yes, I passed through it, but in a very stressing and exhausting way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The second time, many years after (I was then 48 years old), I tried a new approach.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I dropped the boxing gloves. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Well, don\u2019t think that I was not determined to pass though this ordeal! This time however, along with my wish to survive, was a commitment to not letting cancer take over my life. So I concentrated on actions and events that I was able to influence, and I didn\u2019t lose time on situations that were out of my control. For example, we can\u2019t change a diagnosis. We may cry, be mad and drive ourselves crazy, nothing will change. Yes, I cried a few times, but I tried not to stay in this emotion for too long. Instead of spending all my energy that way, I concentrated on the best ways to go forward. This concept is the very essence of a citation that inspired me and that I adore: \u201cI can’t change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination.” (James Dean). My goal is to have this quote touch and inspire other women, as for this note actually.<\/p>\n\n\n\n What came out of my two experiences of apprehending breast cancer? I lived so much better through the second one. Instead of concentrating on cancer, I kept it in a small corner, and concentrated on ways to better live this difficult period. Really, I was more serene, more positive, less crushed, although I had to go through chemo and a less reassuring prognostic than the first time. I was also sleeping better. My goal was to get the better of my day. That was my main motivation: continue to live fully during this turbulent period. Not survive. And it made a huge difference for me!<\/p>\n\n\n\n How about you? Are you tempted by this approach?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Come on\u2026 just drop the boxing gloves\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n Julie Faucher<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n CEOStudio Equilibra inc<\/a>B<\/a>logue Rose<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n The Quebec Breast Cancer Foundation is proud to host guest editors on its website.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" That\u2019s an intriguing title, isn\u2019t it? I chose it because, after receiving a cancer diagnostic, we often hear phrases like: \u201cyou have to fight\u201d, \u201cbe strong \u201c, \u201cstay positive\u201d and \u201cyou will win\u201d. Cancer hits hard, it destabilizes. We are talking about eradicating cancer, then about destroying and killing cancerous cells. 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